接下來是關於Social support的部分。
建立相互分憂的社交網絡
Stress is a normal and unavoidable part of life — but too much stress can affect your emotional and physical wellbeing.
Manage stress: Strengthen your support network – APA
如巴士阿叔説的，你有壓力，我有壓力。但壓力如果沒有緩解的管道，就會出事暴走。
Emotional support is an important protective factor for dealing with life’s difficulties. The 2015 survey found the average stress level for those with emotional support was 5.0 out of 10, compared to 6.3 for those without such support.
情緒上的支援，似乎跟壓力指數有關係。
Loneliness has been associated with a wide variety of health problems including high blood pressure, diminished immunity, cardiovascular disease and cognitive decline.
簡單來説，孤獨鬼不得好死啦有較高幾率身體不健康。
In fact, experts say, almost all of us benefit from social and emotional support. And though it may seem counterintuitive, having strong social support can actually make you more able to cope with problems on your own, by improving your self-esteem and sense of autonomy.
不得不説，雖然沒有美滿下場，但在這一次的戀愛，若沒有身邊朋友給我勇氣，我連這個失敗的機會都不會有。更不用説，在之後大家爲我打氣，讓我至少不覺得自己一文不值這樣。
Yet social skills don’t always come naturally. Some people have trouble making social connections. Many others lose established connections due to life changes such as retirement, relocation or the death of a loved one. In any case, it’s possible to forge new connections to reap the benefits of a healthy support network.
這段部分之前提過，大家畢竟都有不同人生方向，身邊的朋友不會永遠都維持那幾個人。總有一天，他們會因爲人生軌跡的改變，進而不再隨傳隨到。
然後文章提到一些策略，其一
Cast a wide net. When it comes to your social supports, one size doesn’t fit all. You may not have someone you can confide in about everything — and that’s okay.
其實也不需要執著與找一個可以聊所有事的人，不同的事可以跟不同的人聊也是很好。
Be proactive. Often people expect others to reach out to them, and then feel rejected when people don’t go out of their way to do so. To get the most out of your social relationships, you have to make an effort. Make time for friends and family. Reach out to lend a hand or just say hello.
其實解封后，我也在陸陸續續在綫下努力約大家見面了就是。
Take advantage of technology. It’s nice to sit down with a friend face-to-face, but it isn’t always possible. Luckily, technology makes it easier than ever before to stay connected with loved ones far away.
我實在很討厭視訊，就算是簡訊再即時也取代不了面對面的尷尬溫度。
Follow your interests. Do you like to hike, sing, make jewelry, play tennis, get involved in local politics? You’re more likely to connect with people who like the things you like. Join a club, sign up for a class or take on a volunteer position that will allow you to meet others who share your interests.
同樣的，也是趁著解封，然後就慢慢回復正常社交生活這樣。
Consider joining a support group to meet others who are dealing with similar challenges.
這個對我來説比較陌生，但不失爲一個好方法就是。
Improve your social skills. If you feel awkward in social situations and just don’t know what to say, try asking simple questions about the other person to get the ball rolling.
我覺得這個真的很看人數，二十來人的活動我會比較可能可以相對安心跟一些出席者聊天。但如果是像彩虹G動輒幾百人，不好意思我真的會當機。
Ask for help. If you lack a strong support network and aren’t sure where to start, there are resources you can turn to.
所以我去諮商了。
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